What to Do When He Pulls Away

Respond to distance with proportion: regulate the urge to overpursue, look at the pattern, communicate clearly when appropriate, and keep your own standards visible.

Don’t immediately double your effort

More calls, explanations and reassurance can turn uncertainty into overfunctioning. Give the situation enough room to reveal itself.

Use direct communication

If the relationship warrants it, describe what you’ve noticed and ask a simple question. Avoid accusations or scripts designed to force a response.

Judge the response, not just the words

Clarity includes whether the person follows through after the conversation.

Keep your boundary

Giving someone space does not require waiting indefinitely or accepting a relationship that does not meet your needs.